A toxic sibling may "side with" your parent

In a well-adjusted family dynamic, there's usually no such thing as "taking sides." But when someone learns poor relationship patterns from a parent, they may try to earn that parent's affection by replicating those patterns and thus normalizing harmful behavior.

Toxic siblings often become a supporter of an equally toxic parent. They'll use similar critical language as the parent, and shame the targeted sibling regarding areas of life they might be feeling vulnerable about.

Fostering or playing into a competitive dynamic that's meant to make you feel bad is another type of toxic sibling behavior, as is conveniently forgetting your invite to family get-togethers. Their goal is to send the clear message that you're not included on purpose, and they'll often gloat about what a wonderful event it was.

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