Apr 19, 20221 min read

Emotional Blackmail

By using emotional blackmail, a narcissistic mother is able to keep her children on edge all the time. She uses emotional blackmail to make her own children feel guilty and fearful so that they will comply with her wishes.

She uses threats and intimidation to terrorize her own children. It makes them fearful of the consequences of defying, so much so that they’re always walking on eggshells. Their narcissistic mother’s threats might be subtle or blatant, but they are designed to provoke submission.

For the narcissistic mother, her so-called love is a tool she uses to manipulate her own children. Do what she wants and she loves you, don’t do what she wants and she withdraws her love.

This teaches her children that love is conditional. They must behave in exactly the way she wants or they will lose her love. She might stop talking to them, refuse to say, “I love you,” or use money to manipulate and control them.

The effects can be disastrous and complicate any relationship the child will ever have in life. They see any kind of defiance as something that might provoke the withdrawal of love.